Keeping the space ‘between’ sacred and safe

I have written about the space between us before; but it is such an important space, and it is so often not recognised quite how important – that writing about it again isn’t a bad thing.

The space between us is the scared space; it is the space where all our relationships live.

That is how important it is.

It is the home of our relationships… If this space is clean and harmonious then our relationships are happy, harmonious, offering growth, loving, fun, expansive…

And what is more if it is a space between two people where children are being born and then living, breathing, growing up – of course they are being affected every single moment by the space they inhabit…

Is the space safe? Is the space harmonious, joyous…? Or is the space contaminated with tension, anger, fear…?

Our part in keeping the space safe between us and another, is to reflect on and explore the space within us…

As the poet Rumi said

‘Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it…’

For ironically if it is in relationship where we are looking for the other to love us, so that we know we are loveable and loved – without looking within to where we do not love ourselves – then we can unconsciously contaminate the relational space and so contribute to getting the exact opposite to what we were seeking.

When instead we are aware of working to heal the aspects within us where we have built the barrier to love, then we will be in a better position to honour the space between ourselves and the other…

This practise is a forever practise and a moment by moment practise. It is about personal responsibility and personal reflection…

In conscious relating we can share with another our own processes, if we have discovered a barrier to love within us… But this practise still maintains safety in the space between…

If we think always… “What kind of energy am I putting in the space? What words am I putting there? What thoughts and feelings? what reactions?

And if we are always reflective of ourselves from a loving stance – then we will be conscious of what we are contributing to the sacred space between us and the other…

And from this place we can change our own lives and the lives of others by creating space that is loving and safe and therefore expansive with no limits to what is possible…

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